• Tamara Trotman-Simon

How to Find the Love Of Your Life in Four Easy Steps

Updated: May 10, 2019

"All that I seek is already within me." - Louise Hay

Are you seeking a close, connected relationship, however, cannot seem to get close to anyone? Feeling like it is close to impossible to find the right one and stay in a lasting relationship?

It is human nature to want to connect with another to experience the amazing feeling of being in love, and to be the sole focus of their attention. The reality is far from this ideal for many. Why is this? 1. Individuals are looking outside themselves to feel love and connection and 2. When you look to another, if they are not loving themselves then they are incapable of giving what you're seeking to the level you are wanting. This means you’re looking for love in all the wrong places. Yes, I said it! I know. I can hear you saying what? What are you talking about? Where else would I get it? Great question. So, I want to ask you. Where do you find this love?

The answer...Source and Your Soul or Higher Self. This requires that you to look within. To connect to flow the unconditional love that is you in any given moment. When you do align with it, you will feel an incredible love incapable of words, appreciation that will move you to tears, worthiness resulting in feelings of invincibility, and wholeness that will have you feeling abundantly blessed. It is steady, strong and focused solely on you, all the time. It feels like a parent that is loving, appreciating, and adoring you, cheering you on, and never judging you. This is the relationship to seek for it is infinite and expanding along side you while you move through life…unshakable and undeniable. Sounds amazing right? It is, and wouldn’t it be amazing to feel this all the time? Here are some ways you can achieve this:

Four Ways to Find the Love You’re Seeking

1. Meditation: This is a great way to quiet the mind, and allow your vibration to raise to connect with Source and your Higher Self to feel love, appreciation and bliss.

2. Self Talk: Pay attention to the words you use as they either raise or lower your vibration Do you see and talk to yourself the same way as Source is? i.e. kind, loving, supportive, and compassionate.

3. Listen to your Inner guidance: Listen for and follow through on the gentle whispers that come to you in the form of impulses, ideas or urges which lead you to feeling better in every moment. i.e. soak in the tub, drink a glass of wine, take a nap or listen to music you love.

4. Follow Your Emotional Guidance System: How you feel in any given moment, lets you know if you are in alignment with Source and your Higher Self, or not. Feeling love, appreciation, satisfaction and excitement are higher vibrations and in connection with Source. Feeling frustration, anger, jealousy or hate is of lower vibration, which means disconnected from Source.

These things may seem too simple to do, but if you do them, I promise you, you will feel amazing. You will fall in-love with yourself, and your life. Things that you did not like about yourself before, you will come to love and appreciate.

The other important thing here is CONSISTENCY. Its not a matter of doing this for a couple of days and then you stop. This is about being intentional about your relationship with yourself, Soul and Source. Just like your relationship with a love interest, you are putting in the effort to keep this connection strong.

It is our responsibility to manage our inner world first and then through our connection, love the other “unconditionally”. As Abraham Hicks says, "It’s not the other loving you, its you loving them. Not for their benefit, but your own. You are love at you core and it feels better to love then not."

Some of you may be thinking so how do we have relationships then? You align yourself with Source and your Higher Self, replenish and then flow this love to others without expectation. When both are doing this, unlimited love flows in both directions from a feel-good place free from need or longing. When you base your love and happiness on what the other is or isn’t doing, unconditional love no longer exist.

So, based on what you have read in this article, what have you learned? What one thing will you change starting today? Please comment below. I would love to hear from you.

If you would like to discuss this in more detail, please contact me for a personal discovery session.

Some resources to check out:

There are a couple really great resources you can read to help connect with the love within:

Love Yourself, Heal Your Life and Mirror Work by Louise Hay

Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks

Love and Blessings,


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